For family home evening last week Colin phoned home to see what I would like him to teach. I told him to teach them a life lesson this week, not a scripture story. I told him to pick something he feels they need to work on. He had a great idea. He went to the store and bought sweettart jelly beans. And a whole bunch of candy! (It was 3 of everything, so that it could be divided up equally) The idea was that everyone would have a bowl of their own. Every time someone was caught doing, or saying, something nice they got a "sweetheart" put in their bowl. Then, after one week we would see who had the most and they would win ALL the candy Colin had bought. You can imagine the excitement. In the first 2 hours of the project I was told that my hair looked beautiful 20+ times! Their enthusiasm didn't die, they were great kids ALL week. They said nice things, and did nice things for each other. It was so great! The catch phrase of the week became, "Mom, is there anything that I can do to help you?" Wow, what polite and thoughtful kids.
Being the mom, I was put in charge of distributing. All was well. By the end of the week everyone was well on their way to the prize...except me. I had 0 jellybeans. The kids just kept saying, "Mom, you just aren't very nice," or "You haven't helped anyone today."
HOLD ON A MINUTE!
REALLY?
That is all I do. Do you ever feel like all you do it DO for someone else? That is the definition of a Mother. Oh, wait, it is also that you do it all, UNNOTICED. So, I am sure that with all the meals, clean laundry, driving to lessons, cookies baked, and love administered, I had this thing in the bag! But according to those "sweet" little children, I had done nothing!
IRONIC!
Well the end of the week came and here is the outcome:
Everyone else's bowl

**Ruth threw a few in the day before for taking her to a Ballroom dance performance. (Isn't that nice of her to notice?)
Ruth won, but the catch was when she got the candy she was supposed to share. It was ALOT of candy for one little girl, and it would divide up nicely between the 3 of them. She wanted to give them one thing! She lost the challenge. Once it was explained to her that she wasn't a true sweetheart until she shared everything evenly, she gladly did it! Good girl!
I am not ranting that I feel over worked and under appreciated. Actually the opposite, but Colin's fun little FHE lesson proved the point that mother's fly under the radar. That's the way it is supposed to be, and that is the way I like it.
**If you are thinking, "At least my husband appreciates me." Think again!
Conversation:
I made green pancakes for St. Patrick's Day.
Colin: Look at those awesome pancakes! I bet no one else gets yummy green pancakes today! You guys are so lucky!"
Naturally I am thinking that he is saying that to make a big deal of what I do for them and to give me a Jelly bean.
NOPE...
Colin: Hey mom, I deserve a jelly bean for saying that!!!
WHAT?!?!?!
I love being a mother, wouldn't change it for the world, but some appreciation is not coming till Ruth has an experience like this with her kids, and gives me a call. Here's to waiting 20 years for some appreciation.
Colin and I had a great little laugh about that one! He meant well! Thanks sweetie!
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Thanks Mom! I love you, and ALL that you did for me when I didn't get it!